I just was reading a passage from The Song Of Solomon and an accompanying essay which got me to thinking about relationships and marriage; about how the relationships within our families are at the root or our societal structure. When there are root problems that are affecting our society at large and if we are seriously in search of a solution any gardener can tell you that you need to focus on systemic change in the way that we are affecting our perceptions and expectations in our familial relationships. We should take a clear and open-minded look at what the problems plaguing current family relationships and then chart the rise of these problems and then chart the corresponding time period in terms of the changes in attitudes and expectations that have coincided with the rise of these impediments to harmony and then look at what external forces have enacted these changes in perception. What are we doing to our ability to live in contentment with another human being and how do we reverse the damage?
We need to ask pointed questions to directly address some things that have been going on in the name of personal gratification that are tearing families apart, even if the questions offend some or hurt a few feelings. We need to learn once more, as a society, that just because you are allowed to do something does not necessarily mean that you should do that.
We need to be able to address and fill the needs of the individual who deviates from a broad societal norm without having to make a sweeping systemic overhaul harming society as a whole to fulfill individual preferences.
Each of us could take a pledge to stop looking for things to be unhappy about and set about fixing some of the many dilemmas that sit in our lap. Does anyone really think that this social micromanagement of our lives is really working?
I just think that we shouldn’t be so willing to cast off the lessons of the past in order to race headlong into the future.